How to Beat your Bad Habits and be Happy - 7 Steps to Kill Bad Habits

Bad habits are controlling, hard to manage and can seem impossible to get rid of.  Breaking a bad habit is a process and can take patience.  The biggest part is that you are able to be aware of your habit and form processes to curb it.  Beating your bad habits can be a lot of work but you are left happier and healthier when you do.  

Breaking the habit or habits that control your life can put you on the path to be your best self.  Changing your habits and overcoming the fear of change helps you to have a happy life and a positive attitude.


I am a chronic phone user.  I love to scroll through the endless sea of posts and stories.  Problem is, it’s endless.  I can scroll through post after post and never realize just how consumed I can get.  

I’m not going to share how long each day I’m on my phone because it is a little excessive and my “Daily Screen Time” already shames me enough.  

I don’t want to keep up this pattern though, my phone is not a way of life.  I want to stop reaching for my phone whenever I have a hand free. By trying to catch myself during my scroll, I can start to break the habit.  Acknowledging I have an issue and catching myself in the act, help to begin to change my habits.  Instead of reaching for my phone, I try to grab a book instead. When my hands itch for the fix on my feed, I find something else to do with my hands. Crocheting, drawing, or cleaning are quick ways for me to distract myself.  

I’m not over my scrolling addiction and I can still find comfort in my old ways but I have to keep coming back to the real world.  Pulling myself out of the trace that bad habits bring can be really tough and change will not happen overnight but with repetition and replacement with good habits is helping to break my bad habit cycle.  

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Tips for success

These really don’t fit into my 7 step bad habit breaking system but I think they are important to note, as they may help you get an extra edge over your bad habits.

Buddy System - This works really well when you need help to keep yourself accountable.  By finding someone who is trying to quit the same bad habit you are, you can work together to keep each other on track.  Having someone who is going through the same thing you are, gives you someone to relate to and can make you more likely to stay on track.

Talk about it - Maybe you don’t have anyone who can be your partner in breaking your bad habits but you can use social pressure to keep you accountable.  By talking about and telling your friends, family, or coworkers about your goal, you seeming leave yourself with no option but to succeed.  

Reward Yourself - When you find yourself meeting your goals, make a point to acknowledge it.  Make reaching your goals something exciting and something you look forward to.  


Step 1 - Acknowledge your Habit

Chances are if you are reading this then you already know what your bad habit is(or habits are).  Acknowledging your bad habit is a little more than knowing what your habit is.  Acknowledging your bad habit is also about accepting that your bad habit does not serve you.  You have to believe that your bad habit is worth getting rid of.  

Step 2 - Determine Causes

To fully understand your bad habit you have to find the trigger or cause of it.  Most commonly stress and boredom are the cause of bad habits.  You can try to narrow it down even farther to help with the next step.

When you get stressed at work you might feel like lighting up a cigarette or you might start drinking every weekend.  Maybe when you’re bored you pick up your phone.  What drives you to your bad habit?

Step 3 - Change your Environment

When you have triggers all around you it can be hard to make sure you don’t slip back into your bad habit.  By removing any potential triggers you can limit the frequency that you will have to fight your mind not to resort to the bad habit.

If you are trying to quit sugar, you should get rid you the snack foods in your pantry and make sure not to buy any more.  If your bad habit is using your cellphone too much, you could try leaving your phone in another room or even set a time in your household that you make cell phone free.  

Step 4 - Set Goals

You don’t have to eliminate your bad habits cold turkey.  Instead, work on setting reasonable goals for yourself to meet.  Use goals as daily motivation to keep your bad habits at bay.

If you want to quit smoking, try to limit the number of cigarettes you have.  Start by having one less than normal, then two and so on until you reach one cigarette per day.  Try to stop entirely for one day then two. Quitting your bad habits does not have to happen all at once; start small and work your way up.

Step 5 - Create Healthy Habits

When you can rely on good habits instead of your past bad ones, you can channel your energy into something healthy.  Instead of smoking when you get stressed, try meditating or add daily physical activity into your routine.  Take the energy you once had for your bad habit and use it for something to benefit you.

Making good habits is also a process but it can be the turning point for leaving your bad habits behind.  Develop happy habits and become happy yourself.  

Step 6 - Learn Awareness

If you find yourself feeling stressed or reaching for the bad habit, take a moment to acknowledge it.  Check in with yourself.  Are you feeling any certain way? Bored? Stressed?

If you can catch yourself before you begin to engage with your bad habit you can reroute and pick a healthier way to deal with how your feeling.

You can also use this strategy to catch yourself during the act as well.  Your response may be more of, what can I do right now to stop myself from continuing my bad habit?  How can I pull myself out of the act that I'm partaking in?

Step 7 - Keep Showing Up

Breaking a habit is hard and there is a good chance that will power alone will not be enough to keep you from your bad habit.  Learn to accept when you relapse but also learn to get back up.  You have to actively want to break your bad habit and when you can keep coming back to good habits and healthy ways of dealing with stress, you increase your ability to not let your old ways control you.  

Breaking bad habits is hard because they are something that you have become comfortable with.  The key to successfully freeing yourself from them is to put in the effort and not be afraid of change.  When you are willing to work for the things you want, you will see results. You already know what your bad habits are, now it’s up to you to do the work and free yourself from them.

Get your bad habits off your chest by leaving them in a comment!  Let’s work on this together!

 




Why You'll Never be Happy - 10 Things to Change your Attitude

It seems like the whole world has learned to put on a happy face on for the perfect Instagram photo, but how many actually are happy?

Happiness can sometimes seem hard to achieve but once you find what is making you unhappy you can act to change it.

What’s Holding You Back

When you’re constantly worrying about something that has happened or has yet to happen, your mind is not in the current moment.  Instead, your mind has drifted off in the sea of worry and it can’t swim back.

You wait for the weekend only to lazily sit around worrying about the week ahead.  What problems am I going to have to deal with? Is Linda going to be a bitch again?  I’m so tired out from the last week, do I have to do it again? I hope my mom’s not going to call.  I have to take my car in and I forgot, I also have to get groceries too. And pay rent. And go to the bank. And so on.  

Or maybe you’re a dreamer, I’ll be happy when…

I’ll be happy when I get a better job. I’ll be happy when I make more money.  I’ll be happy when it is no longer winter. I’ll be happy when…

Did I lose you yet?  I bet you spend a lot of time in your head. It’s really easy to get caught up in thinking and thinking too much.   When you live too much in your head, it is really hard to come back and enjoy the present moment. So how are you supposed to be happy?

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Tips for a Happy Life

1. Start a Grounding Practice

Grounding practices help to bring you back to the present moment and connect with the world in a meaningful way.  Practices you could try might include meditation, 5-4-3-2-1 technique, or other mindfulness activities. Grounding can help to make you feel centered and reduce your stress.  

2. Define your Values

Decide what you believe makes a good person.  Focus on traits that are something you can adopt and commit to.  Think in terms of kindness, compassion, confidence, etc.

Who do you want to be?  Or who do you want to be remembered as?  What traits does someone need to have to be who you want to be?  Do you want to be smart? Do you want to be a risk taker? Do you want to give back?

3. Move your Body

When you get your heart rate up, endorphins are released in your brain.  These endorphins help to combat stress and make you feel happier. Not only is exercise good for your body but your mind as well.  Taking even 10 minutes to go for a walk or stretch your body can be hugely impactful to your mood.

4. Sleep Enough

Sleep is a major part in being a functioning human being and when you don't get enough you are almost inviting stress and discomfort.  When you get a good night’s rest you wake up feeling refreshed and a lot more ready to tackle challenges.

5. Get Outside

Fresh air can do wonders for your mood.  Along with reducing cortisol, spending a short amount of your day outside can also help to improve anxiety and depression.  Even taking a walk through your city’s park can help to improve creativity and lower blood pressure.

6. Make Strong Connections

Having a support system or people who will lift you up, can help to reduce stress and give you better coping skills.  Having friends and family that you can turn to when the going gets tough or when you just need a healthy distraction is hugely beneficial to your happiness and success.  

7. Go after your Goals

When you are actively working towards a goal or outcome you can feel great satisfaction for accomplishments.  When you are working towards a goal, it is important not to get too caught up in the big picture but instead enjoy the small victories.  

8. Have New Experiences

Trying new things and getting out of your comfort zone, not only inspires growth but can also give you a break from your daily routine.  Even though trying new things can be intimidating they can also be rewarding. You can meet new people, find new talents, and grow your happiness.  Being stagnant doesn’t promote feeling good so challenge yourself and expand your comfort zone.

9. Practice Self Care

Life’s hard when you aren’t taking care of yourself.  You might be surprised how much better you feel after taking some time to take care of you.  Sit down with a book, maybe even a hot drink, and start filling your cup because you need it!

10. Learn Gratitude

The single easiest thing to help make you happy is gratitude.  When you express gratitude for things in your life, you start to shift and look for more things to be happy about.  Getting grateful, whether by yourself in your head, in a journal, or to the people around you, will create positive change to your mindset and help you refocus on the things that are important to you.  

Practicing gratitude, even for the smallest of things, can recenter your life and drive you to find the positive in every situation.  


Getting happy is not a 10 step process and there are no guidelines that will work for everyone but these tips can act as an inspiration to get out there and start trying things to find what works for you.  All of these tips can help to get you out of your negative thought patterns and back into the present moment. Finding happiness is a journey and I hope to provide you with the tools you need to get there!

What makes you happy? Have you tried any of these tips before?

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How to Feel Better through Forgiveness - 3 Ways Forgiveness Heals

To forgive is to free yourself from anger and hurt.  Without forgiveness, it is too easy to get caught up and stuck in negative emotions.  By allowing yourself to acknowledge and release pain, you give yourself the gift of a blank slate.  When we can extend that feeling to others, we can help to heal the other person and our relationship with them.  Forgiveness can open up many opportunities, you just have to be ready to let go.


Power of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a fundamental piece of learning to let go and of growth.  When you dwell on the past, it can be nearly impossible to feel at peace.   By acknowledging and then releasing negative emotions, in the form of apologies, you can help to create an environment where past mistakes don’t control the narrative.  

When you offer forgiveness to yourself and others you are clearing an emotional block.  By having a space free of emotional blocks, you can be more open to experiences and your relationships can flourish.  It can feel hard to allow yourself to forgive but your world becomes happier when you do.


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Healing for Others

Forgiving others can have large impact on others and your relationship with them.  Sometimes when you are holding onto a lot of resentment for someone, you can find it hard to be around them. They probably can tell that there’s some kinds of issue.  Maybe they have even tried apologizing. You don’t need to go around forgiving everyone for everything that they have ever done that affected you but you can start to forgive the small things in private.  Forgiveness doesn’t always need to come in the form of an apology, sometimes is can be just the acknowledgement and act of letting something go.

When you become a forgiving person people feel more comfortable around you and your relationships can be strengthened.  People might feel like you’re easier to be around or even that you make them excited to see you. When you stop holding the past against someone, you can begin to look past their mistakes and shortcomings.  



Healing for Yourself


When you allow yourself to let go of negative feelings and guilt you can become infinitely more happy.  Forgiving yourself can be hard but it can be harder to be miserable. By holding onto feeling and memories that cause you to feel bad, you encourage those feelings to stick around.  By acknowledging and accepting negative thoughts and feelings you can begin to understand and free yourself from them.

When you face a difficult situation accepting that you can and will make mistakes can leave you open to more growth.  Having the confidence to make a decision, whether right or wrong can be easier when you are not held back by the “bad” choices of the past.  Learn to see every situation as neither positive or negative, instead look for how every situation can be a learning experience. Look for opportunities to grow and be aware that they can be presented in many different ways.  

Your negative feeling towards others can especially have an effect on your well being.  It can be all to easy to feel angry or upset with others when you perceive them to have made a mistake.  When you let that anger fester and build it starts to seep into you and you start to feel consumed. By separating yourself from others and not getting caught up in something that they have done or done to you, you can become untouchable and not phased.  

By acting with an intention of forgiveness, you are able to shape your relationships and in turn the world around you.  Forgiveness gives you freedom and the ability to live in the moment. When used from a place of love and care, you can heal your relationship with yourself. Forgiveness opens your heart to the act of being free; free from hurt, negative emotions, and the past.  


Release yourself from the negative emotions and patterns by allowing yourself to forgive.

Healing Yourself with Forgiveness - 5 Tips You Need to Know

To feel free of worry and upset you must learn how to offer yourself forgiveness.  Learning forgiveness can feel confusing, even more so when you don’t feel able to let go.  The power of forgiveness can be huge in releasing worries and help you to find inner calm. Live more in the moment with these 5 tips for forgiveness.

Power of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is an often overlooked tool for healing.  When you normally think forgiveness you probably don’t think about offering it to yourself.  Surprisingly enough you and the most important person in your own life and to spend time on your shortcomings would be a waste of your time.  When you allow yourself to let go of your past mistakes, you can really start getting to a healthy place with yourself.

Forgiveness is the first step to growth, as you cannot expect to become a better person while still dwelling on your past.  Learning to let go can help you get the most out of the relationship you have with yourself.

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1. Learn to forgive others

Sometimes it's hard to imagine being nice to ourselves when we feel unworthy of forgiveness.  When we practice forgiving others it is kind of like training a muscle, and it can become easier to imagine a world where we don’t carry guilt.  

Practicing forgiveness is something you can do in many ways.  You can send a message, meet face to face, or even just in your own mind.  Forgiveness can be as much about you as it is about others.

2. Focus on the small stuff

Instead of jumping to your worst memory or thought, try looking for a small mistake you may have made instead.  It can be a lot easier to learn forgiveness when you aren’t trying to heal a major source of hurt. Pick something that you feel that you can easily separate from yourself and let it go.

Apologize to yourself for not washing the dishes or forgetting to pick up groceries.  Starting with something small can help open the gate for deeper emotional healing.

3. Be aware

A major part in forgiving yourself is the awareness that you are feeling guilty or stuck in a negative thought loop.  When you feel yourself getting sucked into a moment that is not the present one, take a second to reconnect by checking in with yourself.  This could be done in a multitude of ways; body scan, focus on your breath, mindful meditation, etc.

By breaking the vortex that your negative thoughts can become you are breaking a pattern of thinking.  Awareness is the first step to finding your source of hurt.

4. Let go

Once you are aware of what is causing you to hurt, it’s time to free yourself from it.  Holding onto negative emotions will not help you get happy. Let yourself feel any emotions that come up but also be ready to let them go when they no longer serve you.

If just letting an emotion go seems difficult you can try this shower meditation.  Using visualization you can learn to let your emotions wash away.

5. Be grateful

Sometimes even after letting go of a mistake, it can still seem to hang around.  When you take a moment to reframe the memory you can change the feeling around it.  Learn to look for the things you learned from the experience. Becoming grateful for what an experience has given you is the ultimate goal in learning to forgive yourself.  

What do you need to do to get it right next time? What lesson has this experience taught you? How can you improve despite maybe screwing up?

Learn to stop feeling bad about your choices and instead start looking for the good.  

When you break the cycle of anger and negativity towards yourself, you can really begin to start healing.  Offering yourself forgiveness allows you to find peace with yourself and in that ultimately, happiness. The power of forgiveness allows you to live in the moment and can reframe negative experiences.

Free yourself from worries and stress by learning to forgive yourself.  

Learn to be Grateful, 11 Gratitude Quotes to Inspire You


Gratitude is a powerful force for change.  When we take time to express our gratitude, we feel happier, more hopeful, and more connected to our world.  Happiness is something that everyone seeks and gratitude allows us to find it. Gratitude is all about acknowledging the things that make us feel whole.  


These gratitude quotes are sure to leave you feeling warm and fuzzy inside!



Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.

- William Arthur Ward




As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.

- John F. Kennedy


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Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.

- William Arthur Ward


Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.

- Melody Beattie


I am happy because I'm grateful. I choose to be grateful. That gratitude allows me to be happy.

- Will Arnett

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Gratitude is the inward feeling of kindness received. Thankfulness is the natural impulse to express that feeling. Thanksgiving is the following of that impulse.

- Henry Van Dyke



Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.

- Zig Ziglar



It's wonderful to be grateful. To have that gratitude well out from deep within you and pour out in waves. Once you truly experience this, you will never want to give it up.

- Srikumar Rao



Thankfulness is the beginning of gratitude. Gratitude is the completion of thankfulness. Thankfulness may consist merely of words. Gratitude is shown in acts.

- Henri Frederic Amiel


When it comes to life the critical thing is whether you take things for granted or take them with gratitude.

- Gilbert K. Chesterton

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The discipline of gratitude is the explicit effort to acknowledge that all I am and have is given to me as a gift of love, a gift to be celebrated with joy.

- Henri Nouwen


Are you feeling a little more inspired and ready to take on the day?

Leave a comment telling me one thing you are grateful for today!

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