Why You'll Never be Happy - 10 Things to Change your Attitude

It seems like the whole world has learned to put on a happy face on for the perfect Instagram photo, but how many actually are happy?

Happiness can sometimes seem hard to achieve but once you find what is making you unhappy you can act to change it.

What’s Holding You Back

When you’re constantly worrying about something that has happened or has yet to happen, your mind is not in the current moment.  Instead, your mind has drifted off in the sea of worry and it can’t swim back.

You wait for the weekend only to lazily sit around worrying about the week ahead.  What problems am I going to have to deal with? Is Linda going to be a bitch again?  I’m so tired out from the last week, do I have to do it again? I hope my mom’s not going to call.  I have to take my car in and I forgot, I also have to get groceries too. And pay rent. And go to the bank. And so on.  

Or maybe you’re a dreamer, I’ll be happy when…

I’ll be happy when I get a better job. I’ll be happy when I make more money.  I’ll be happy when it is no longer winter. I’ll be happy when…

Did I lose you yet?  I bet you spend a lot of time in your head. It’s really easy to get caught up in thinking and thinking too much.   When you live too much in your head, it is really hard to come back and enjoy the present moment. So how are you supposed to be happy?

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Tips for a Happy Life

1. Start a Grounding Practice

Grounding practices help to bring you back to the present moment and connect with the world in a meaningful way.  Practices you could try might include meditation, 5-4-3-2-1 technique, or other mindfulness activities. Grounding can help to make you feel centered and reduce your stress.  

2. Define your Values

Decide what you believe makes a good person.  Focus on traits that are something you can adopt and commit to.  Think in terms of kindness, compassion, confidence, etc.

Who do you want to be?  Or who do you want to be remembered as?  What traits does someone need to have to be who you want to be?  Do you want to be smart? Do you want to be a risk taker? Do you want to give back?

3. Move your Body

When you get your heart rate up, endorphins are released in your brain.  These endorphins help to combat stress and make you feel happier. Not only is exercise good for your body but your mind as well.  Taking even 10 minutes to go for a walk or stretch your body can be hugely impactful to your mood.

4. Sleep Enough

Sleep is a major part in being a functioning human being and when you don't get enough you are almost inviting stress and discomfort.  When you get a good night’s rest you wake up feeling refreshed and a lot more ready to tackle challenges.

5. Get Outside

Fresh air can do wonders for your mood.  Along with reducing cortisol, spending a short amount of your day outside can also help to improve anxiety and depression.  Even taking a walk through your city’s park can help to improve creativity and lower blood pressure.

6. Make Strong Connections

Having a support system or people who will lift you up, can help to reduce stress and give you better coping skills.  Having friends and family that you can turn to when the going gets tough or when you just need a healthy distraction is hugely beneficial to your happiness and success.  

7. Go after your Goals

When you are actively working towards a goal or outcome you can feel great satisfaction for accomplishments.  When you are working towards a goal, it is important not to get too caught up in the big picture but instead enjoy the small victories.  

8. Have New Experiences

Trying new things and getting out of your comfort zone, not only inspires growth but can also give you a break from your daily routine.  Even though trying new things can be intimidating they can also be rewarding. You can meet new people, find new talents, and grow your happiness.  Being stagnant doesn’t promote feeling good so challenge yourself and expand your comfort zone.

9. Practice Self Care

Life’s hard when you aren’t taking care of yourself.  You might be surprised how much better you feel after taking some time to take care of you.  Sit down with a book, maybe even a hot drink, and start filling your cup because you need it!

10. Learn Gratitude

The single easiest thing to help make you happy is gratitude.  When you express gratitude for things in your life, you start to shift and look for more things to be happy about.  Getting grateful, whether by yourself in your head, in a journal, or to the people around you, will create positive change to your mindset and help you refocus on the things that are important to you.  

Practicing gratitude, even for the smallest of things, can recenter your life and drive you to find the positive in every situation.  

Getting happy is not a 10 step process and there are no guidelines that will work for everyone but these tips can act as an inspiration to get out there and start trying things to find what works for you.  All of these tips can help to get you out of your negative thought patterns and back into the present moment. Finding happiness is a journey and I hope to provide you with the tools you need to get there!

What makes you happy? Have you tried any of these tips before?

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7 Things to do to Improve your Sleep Tonight

Sleep is very important for our ability to function, our mood, and many other factors. Unfortunately, a lot of people can’t seem to shut off to get the rest we need.

Continue on for some tips and tricks you can implement tonight to help make you fall asleep faster and get a better sleep.  

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But first, some guidelines.  These should be almost non-negotiable as they all are key to guaranteeing an improvement in your sleep.  

  • Make a bedtime.  By not having a specific time in which that you should be going to bed, you’re just asking to stay up too late or have a harder time falling asleep.  

  • You should only use your bed for sleep.  When you lay in it to do work or other activities that aren’t sleeping you are training your brain not to sleep when you’re in bed.  

  • Limit caffeine.  Caffeine is a stimulate and it keeps you and your brain up.  You shouldn’t consume caffeine within 6 hours of your expected bedtime.


Things to Try

1. Avoid screens.

Taking time away from television, games, and mindless social media scrolling is no doubt one of the most beneficial things you can do before bed.  

When we are staring at our screens, we are not encouraging ourselves to sleep. Instead, we are doing the very opposite of that.  The bright screens emit a light that our brain interprets as the sun and thus our body can’t feel ready for sleep. Stepping away from the screens that sometimes seem to control our lives, is not only good for aiding in sleep but can also be good for our mental health.  

2. Get comfy.

It’s no doubt that laying down in a comfortable bed with lots of blankets and pillows are super relaxing and can make going to bed a lot easier.  A nice mattress with the right amount of support is also key. A good mattress will allow air flow for heat regulation as well as being comfortable and supportive.  

When your sleeping space is one that is welcoming and comfortable, it is no doubt that your sleep will improve.


3. Lower room temperature.

When it’s too hot, its hard to sleep.  Before going to bed it can be a good idea to cool off your bedroom.  You could turn the furnace down, the AC on, or even open the window. Not only will the cool air help in putting you to sleep but the fresh air can also be very comforting.  

4. Read.  

When is the last time you sat down to read a book?  Probably too long ago.

When someone takes time to read we are helping our bodies and minds to relax.  Reading a book in a sense almost transports you to a place where your worries and daily stresses don’t matter.  You can learn and explore so many different worlds through the act of reading. Plus there are books on every topic and libraries can make reading really accessible.  


5. Make a journal for gratitude.

Similar to reading, making a journal is a relaxing activity.  Specifically writing a gratitude journal can be beneficial to your overall well being.  

When you take time out of your day to list the things that you are grateful for not only are you emphasizing the good in your life but you are also acting in a way that encourages more positivity.  When you are happy it is a lot easier to relax and wind down to sleep.

6. Meditate.

Meditating can not only affect your sleep but it can work to make you a happier more confident person.  

Meditating before bed allows you to tune into your body, relax, and let go.  Doing a body scan meditation is perfect before sleep as it helps you do exactly that.  Body scans are relaxing and an easy way to slow down from a busy day.


7. Use sleep aids.

Using that little something extra to help you sleep can sometimes be needed.  Taking a sleep aid is not always necessary but can be helpful.

Melatonin, magnesium, and various other supplements can be taken to help ensure a good nights sleep.  Along with vitamin style supplements teas containing chamomile, valerian, or skullcap can also help to put you to sleep.

Now that you know how to optimize your sleep and the habits around it, you can start implementing them tonight.  By changing our habits and night time routines we can optimize our sleep experience to make sure you're getting the best one.  

Now that you can confidently jump into bed and be ready to sleep, are you ready to change up your day?  Maybe you’re not sure what you need to do next. When you sign up for my newsletter, you also receive my personal checklist for creating the perfect day.  It’s a simple(and printer-friendly) option for when you’re needing just a little extra push.

Trying something from the list out?  Leave a comment telling me what you tried or what you do to fall asleep!

Wishing you a good night’s sleep tonight!